Why?
Why not?!
Before I begin giving that baseless scripted “because of my kids/husband” answer the time is now!
As I have begun to travel, it has opened up another level of conversation and it amazes me the number of people who are unhappy with their life but lack the execution to change it. He or she are quick to tell you what they don’t like and what they want “so badly”, yet when you ask how are they going to do it you get a blank stare. Some even have a plan, but when you follow up with them, there is absolutely no progress.
Nope!! Not me!! Not this time!!
What’s funny is, I used to be that way. Hell, I didn’t even have a “wildest dream” until recently.
Growing up, the end game for me was getting married, having kids, and taking care of my man the way I saw my grandma spoil my papa. The daily cooking, cleaning, singing in the kitchen is what I grew up to. That’s what I wanted. Hell, up until about the age of 23/24, I knew without a shadow of a doubt, I would be married by the age of 25 and finished having all of my kids by 30….boy was I wrong! Now don’t get me wrong, that is still a dream of mine – just without the timeline, but until it happens, I’m not sitting around twiddling my thumbs. ……if only I actually forwarded those chain emails from 10 years ago, within the allotted period of time.
At this age, the vast majority of my acquaintances are married and or with kids. Hell, at this point, some have even divorced, and the single ones….well they are just single. Some have desires to further their education but for the most part they are just “here”- existing. Definitely not living! Just here, making it seem as if being single doesn’t equate to any memorable moments on Instagram (because you know social media is the 21st century’s validation code).
I’m definitely on the market waiting to be proverbially auctioned off. But until the non-intimated guy comes on the scene, I refuse to spend any more of my days questioning my morally driven decisions to not follow the masses, wondering where he is, what I’m doing wrong (because clearly it’s me) or what’s taking it so god awfully long to get here. This is by far the LONGEST maturation period I’ve ever experienced.
I may not know what I want to be when I grow up, but I do know that travel has become my drug of choice and is the only time I truly feel at peace. No alarms, no time clock, no schedule. Just me doing whatever, whenever however. For me, one of the best feelings in the world is to be wandering but not lost. Not having a care in the world where you end up. Just going and soaking things up.
So what is my why? At this point, I would have to say that my why is unapologetically because I want to!
Adventures Before The Ring 
“social media is the 21st century’s validation code” That is hilarious, yet sad at the same time. As a single woman in her 30’s I can relate to this because we want adventure so much, yet we get caught up in survival mode in life, and that turns into ‘just existing’. I wouldn’t knock those who are married and either have kids, or don’t have kids, but we get mentally trained to that’s what we want in life, yet getting told that we should experience all that life has to offer in the ear, and that turns into a struggle, which leads to putting yourself in a box. God created this life for us to enjoy! RICHLY. If that is the case, and we should live by this, then why should we let life stop us from having this adventures? It’s all mental. We must grow & mature & know what we want & not let life get in the way. I know, this world makes it to where we need the finances to explore these places. I use to let finances stop me from going places and experiencing places, but the older i’ve gotten, I am getting out of that stage. My finances aren’t where I would like them to be YET, BUT everyday I am CHOOSING to have some type of adventure everyday. I have a list of places I want to go. I’m just figuring out a way to make it happen. I will have travel stamps in passport!!! I’m with you! I’m ready to bring my “why” to life!!!!!!
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